Thursday, April 17, 2014

Why do we move so much???



Since I've been married...coming up on 25 years now... we have moved a total of 13 times!  That's a lot of moving!  It's always been for different reasons.  Sometimes a job leads us here or there.  Sometimes we need a change of scenery.   Sometimes we need a bigger house.  This last time we were ready to downsize and move closer to Larry's work.

I grew up in 2 houses.  One house till I was 5, then we moved and I lived there till I got married when I was 18.  I didn't grow up moving around.  My husband grew up in the same house all is life.  Maybe that's why we move so much.  I really don't know.

Moving around a lot does have it's advantages.  We don't keep a lot of stuff.  We de-clutter quite frequently. I've learned not to grow too attached to my things.  It's just furniture.  It's just stuff.  

It's interesting to see my kids and how they are affected by all the moving.  Some are still nomads.  Traveling here and there.  On to the next adventure!  But I have one that wants to settle down and have roots.  He wants to buy land and stay there awhile.  I get that.  I admire that.  

I'm grateful for all the places we've lived.  We've had lots of great experiences in every state and house. We've gotten to see and experience the culture in many different places.  We've made life long friends all across America. One funny memory was when we were up in Pittsburgh and Larry was trying to order something through the McDonald's drive-thru.  He says in his thick Texas twang, "I'd like to buy some chicken mac bites."  (it's hard to describe how this sounds...just exaggerate all the "i's" to really long sounding "i's").  The girl in the drive thru says "What?"  He repeats again, even thicker and slower.  She says, "Um, sir,  I have no idea what you are talking about!"  Too funny!

I don't think I could live in one place too long (shhh...don't tell my nomadic husband!)  I look forward to the curves up in the road ahead.  Although I don't enjoy the actual physical part of boxing, moving, lifting, sorting... yuck.. I do enjoy new adventures.

What about you?  Have you moved alot?  Would you like to?


Friday, April 11, 2014

New Chapters

I went to the park for lunch today.  The only table that was in the sun was next to the playground.  I ate my lunch and sat there watching the mamas and daddies and all the little punkin' heads running around.  On the one hand, it seems like just a few moments ago that I was one of those mamas chasing around three little ones.  Pushing them on the swings, sliding down the slides with them, toting them around in the strollers.  On the other hand, it seems like ages and ages ago.

My youngest will turn 18 in a few months!  I have 3 young adults now.  My oldest is married!  What?  Time sure does fly when you're having fun.   I'm actually loving this stage right now.  I know it's only a few moments till grand kids come along (I can't wait!)  But for now, I'm really diggin' this time of life.

Stuff I love about having older kids:

  • They can take care of themselves (physically, sometimes they still need me emotionally)
  • They can have great conversations!  Sometimes they hold me to the fire!
  • I love to see them growing in their relationship to God and in their relationships to others.
  • They are a lot of fun!  They go camping, hiking, bike riding with us and it's tough to keep up with them! Plus, they put up the tents etc! Bonus!
  • My honey and I have lots of "date" times together now.
  • I love to see their lives spread out before them and choices they make and the paths they choose.
Probably the biggest regret I've had is that we didn't have more kids.  But I am thankful for what the Lord has blessed us with.  I'm thankful for the person that they've made me.  I'm glad for the lessons they've taught me.  I am super blessed to have an amazing family!


Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Hoop Love

So I discovered hula hooping about 8 months ago.  I've since fallen in love with it.  Who knew there were so many things you could do with a hula hoop!  I've been going to class now fairly regularly.  I love going there. There are so many people there of all ages and stages.  Some youngsters.  Some oldersters.  Men and Women!  I've learned hooping can be an incredible workout!  It can work your arms, legs, core...everything! I can work up a pretty good sweat hooping for an hour!  I've learned that you CAN teach an old dog new tricks!  I didn't think I could learn new things but, it turns out,  I can!  I've learned to embrace the dancing that comes with the hoop.  I love that!  

 I take my hoop everywhere.  Going to the park?  Get the hoop! Going shopping?    
Get the hoop!  Going camping?  Get the hoop!  Going on a cruise?  Don't forget the hoop!  

It's slowly becoming my security blanket.  

I can't wait to see what the next year brings in my hooping.

Meeting new friends.  Going new places.  Learning new stuff.  Getting more active.

Come join me and learn to love the hoop!

Here's where I  take my classes if you are in the DFW area.

Friday, March 21, 2014

Lists, Experience, Wisdom

Everyone's into lists these days.  The top 10 things not to do before you eat.  The top 103 things to do when you raise kids.  The worst 5 things to say.

I like to read them.  They are quick and easy.  I like checklists.  I can scan them really fast.

So I was thinking the other day about what my lists would be.

I guess to make a list you need to feel like somewhat of an expert.  I don't really feel like an expert in anything.  But I have had experience.

I was getting my hair cut the other day when the girl started telling me about how she was moving in with her boyfriend.  I asked her if she was going to get married.  She wanted to but wasn't sure when.  She wanted to go to college first. I answered "You can go to college when you are married". She didn't think she had enough money.  I answered " It's more about the marriage than the ceremony anyway."  She thought she was too young.  I told her how I'd gotten married at 18 and this year will be my 25th wedding anniversary!  I told her it hasn't been easy but anything worth keeping was worth working on. Commitment is key.

Then I was getting my eyebrows waxed and the lady there was telling me how she was so nervous because they were supposed to hear from their Realtor because they had just put a bid on a house! She was so worried.  But I told her not to worry.  There will be plenty of houses.  You can make a home anywhere.  It's more important to make a home than worry about what kind of house you will get.  I told her how we've moved 14 times in the last 25 years and just recently moved back into an apartment!  She couldn't believe it!

I hope to bring words of encouragement to people. I'm not an expert.  But I've had experience and life and the Lord have taught me many lessons.

So I guess one of my lists could be Lessons Learned:

  • Take time to play with your kids.  They will soon leave and your phone and housecleaning will still be there.  They won't be.
  • Don't let certain boxes you've made for yourself hold you back from things.  Get out of that box and try something new!  Travel!  Hula Hoop!  Try new foods!
  • Most things in life don't matter.  A few do.  Those are the things to focus on.
  • Don't try to make other people fit in your box.  They like their boxes too.  
  • Laugh more! Be silly!
  • Don't ever think "I can't do that because what would people think" ...Who cares! Life's too short to worry what others think.  They will probably think "Why didn't I do that!"
  • The marriage is WAY more important than the 10 min ceremony. Invest in the marriage.
  • Spend your money wisely. But have fun too.  Spend it on fun things that you enjoy!
Well I'm sure there are many more.  I'm still learning a lot.

What are some things you have learned?  Words of Wisdom?  What would your list be?


Friday, March 7, 2014

Thankful

I know it isn't Thanksgiving yet...(didn't we just celebrate that?)  But I'm feeling thankful today.  I am thankful for:

  • new opportunities
  • grown children
  • spending more time with my honey
  • the sun shining
  • spring around the corner
  • Saturdays off!
  • vacations in the works
  • bonuses
  • friends and dominoes
  • meeting new people
  • technology
  • quiet
  • being able to see the Lord moving
What are you thankful for today?

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Moscow!

Val & Larry go to Moscow 2013

Sunday October 20, 2013-  Headed out on our journey!  First stop was DC  to visit two life long friends.  We had a great time with the Brinsons and the Huxfords!  They've been our friends for 25+ years!  Its great to keep these friendships cultivated!  Even if you only get to see each other once a year!

Monday October 21, 2013- Rode the Megabus from DC to NY!  I absolutely love the megabus. It's a cheap way to travel but it's a nice bus! We both rode for $20!  Made it to NY around 10:30 and took a taxi to our hotel.  We bought our hotel on Priceline.  We decided to stay in Brooklyn because it was cheaper.  Our hotel room was so tiny!!  It was about the size of our bed! (plus a bathroom!--



the bathroom was as big as the room!)  It was so funny walking in because I had my backpack on with hula hoop.  Larry was carrying our suitcases and we both got stuck in the entry way!

Tuesday October 22, 2013-Had a great time in NY... went to central park, times square, saw a broadway show...Then walked around Brooklyn and saw Brooklyn library and park.

Wednesday October 23, 2013- Started our journey to Moscow!  took the subway to a bus to the airport. Then a 10 hour flight to Moscow!  Thankfully it was at night so we did sleep some.  Although it's really hard to sleep sitting up with people on either side of you!

Thursday October 24, 2013- Landed in Moscow around 12:30 in the afternoon.  The airport is north of the city and our hotel was south of the city.  I had looked up info about the hotel before we left and knew what metro stop it was near.  We decided to try and figure out the metro instead of take a taxi because taxis can be very expensive and Moscow traffic is very congested.  So we took a train from the airport to the metro station.  When we got off the train it was very confusing! Of course everything is in Russian!  The Cyrillic language is so complicated!  We finally figured out we had to walk from the train station to the metro.  Then we had to figure out how to get a ticket. Then we had to figure out which metro line to get on and get on going in the right direction!  We definitely looked like tourists with our book out.  I was getting really frustrated with reading the signs too!  Then Larry took over and he didn't need to make sense of the words.  He just looked for "AO6 backwards L" and  then we could know which metro to get on!  Whew!  Well we finally made it to our metro by our hotel.  Walked up to the street... hmmm.... I had no idea how to get to the hotel from the metro!  Well, the Lord blessed because we looked up and Larry said "Maybe that's it"  I had seen a picture of the hotel online and Yes it was! Hallelujah!  We went to our hotel room and crashed. Completely exhausted!  Slept till about 10pm then woke up!  Went back to sleep around 2 or 3am and slept till 7am!  It was still dark outside!


Friday October 25, 2013-  We took a tour with a guide and 2 other people (who were from Virginia! and Christians!  a Pastor even!)  We went to the Kremlin.  Kremlin means "fortress". It is a collection of buildings and churches.  The drive into the city was almost 2 hours! Our guide explained a lot of Russian history to us.  It was very interesting. The weather was a bit chilly but not bad at all.  I was completely surprised at the weather!  It was always really really hot indoors and then cool outside.  We wore coats and gloves but was never freezing cold.

Got lots of great pictures.  The guide took us up to Sparrow hill which is the highest point in Moscow and we could see the city from there.  Then instead of them taking us all the way back to the hotel we had them drop us off at a Metro.  We had some great lunch and then headed to see Red square! Completely awed by the architecture and beauty of St. Basil's Cathedral.  It seemed completely surreal that we were actually standing there.  The mood in the square was solemn.  Lots of people.  Felt completely safe.  No worries at all.  Also in the square is a History museum, a church, and GUM department store.  The most amazing department store!  It was so huge!  And extremely nice!  Lots of high end shops and really really pretty!

We walked around the Department Store a while to get out of the cold.  We wanted to go to a ballet but had heard the tickets were sold out months in advance.  We were trying to get across the street to Bolshoi Theater.  It's the famous theater for ballets.  The street is about 8 lanes across and there's no way to cross!  Finally we figured out that there are crosswalks UNDER the road!  So we walked under and up to the theater.  Walked right up there and a guy was selling tickets to the ballet that started in about 5 minutes!  We talked him down a bit and then went to the ballet!!  It was so beautiful!  To see the dancers and their athleticism was absolutely stunning.  The theater itself was beautiful too!  We sat high up but had a great view of the ballet.

Then we headed back to the hotel.  As we were trying to figure out the metro again and not having a lot of luck...a couple saw us with our book in hand and said "Where are you going?"  We told him and he said "Follow us we are going the same way"  So off we went!  We got on the metro with them and started talking to them.  It's completely amazing to me how God can orchestrate events and people to come together!  The couple looks at us and said "Are you born again believers?"  Yes!!  "Can we pray right now?"  Yes!!!  So we held hands and bowed right there on the metro in Moscow and prayed with fellow believers. It was very moving.  I was so thankful to see God working in a city I never thought much about before.




Saturday October 26, 2013- We slept till 9am!  Took my hula hoop today and got a lot of really strange looks wherever we went.  It was tied in a scarf on my backpack.  We went to the State Historical museum.  It was in Red Square and was a huge museum that started with pre-historic times!  Lots of interesting exhibits and lots of history.  There were some papers with things in English so we could understand what was going on.  Not everything was in English.  I was so tired though.  Lots of standing and walking.  I fell going down some stairs and slid down a few steps!  Whoops!

Then we went to Red Square and I hula hooped there!  We took a few pictures and then a plain clothes police officer came over and said "no".  So we packed up and left!  That was the only time I felt a little nervous there in Moscow!

Then we went over to a place that sells lots of tea.  It was an interesting little shop but couldn't figure out what to buy!

We wanted to see more recent Russian History.  So we found the Museum of Modern History.  Really interesting to see the perspective of the Russians from 1900 to present day!





Sunday October 27, 2013-Took an excursion with a guide to a Monastery outside town.  It was weird to see so many people there praying to these "icons" on the frescoes on the walls.  They also stood in long lines to have the priest pray for them.  They also stood in long lines to touch relics. I'm so thankful we can go directly to God through Jesus Christ! Russian Orthodox is a  very traditional and ritualistic religion.  Doesn't seems like a relationship at all. At one point our guide was telling us how they pray to the "icons". She said, "It is mostly like you Americans do. " Larry piped in rather loudly and said "NO- JESUS CHRIST IS KING OF KINGS AND LORD OF LORDS!" She just looked up and did the sign of the cross and said "Yes, Jesus Christ is King of King and Lord of Lords."

Then we had lunch in town.  Borscht! and a meat pie baked in a crock with bread on top. And Pancakes with a sweet sauce for dessert!  Yummy!!  So delicious!

Headed back to town and had the driver drop us off at a metro in town.  He dropped us off right at the Russian Space Museum!  So we went in and saw that!  So neat!  Not much in English but it was a great museum!

Then we went to Gorky Park and the area of the park for fallen statues.  These statues are from the Soviet era.  It's good they keep their history alive even though it was a dark period for them.

They talk about the "Soviet"time and they don't like it at all.  We heard stories from our guide about when she lived in the "Soviet" time as compared to now.  Standing in long lines for food and clothes and shoes.  Then getting to the front of the line and not having her size.  Having to grow gardens because there wasn't enough food.  Free housing but everyone just had a small apartment with a few rooms.  Everyone's career was picked out for them.  No incentives to try and be more and do more.

Monday Oct 28, 2013- Got up at 5:30am!  Took a metro to a train then to airport.  Long flight back 10 1/2 hours.  Didn't sleep much at all.  Landed in NY then had to take 2 more planes to Dallas! By the time we got home we had been up and travelling for 24 hours!  Whew!

Planes, taxis, buses, metros, cars, and lots and lots of walking!!  But it was so worth it!  I'm so thankful for the opportunity to travel and see other cultures.  People are the same everywhere. Different in some ways but a lot the same.

Take every opportunity you have to enjoy this life God has blessed us with!  A new adventure awaits with each new morning!


Monday, August 19, 2013

Complaining

It's too hot.
The a/c went out at the house.
No body talks to me.
They won't listen.
The a/c went out in the car.
The coffee's out.
The internet is down.
I hurt my toe.

Wah....wah...wah...wah..

I tend to complain a lot.  I've referred to myself as Eeyore at times.  My first reaction is usually No!  But I've been really focusing on not complaining these past weeks.  It's a verse that I taught my kids when they were little a  long ago.  Philippians 2:14 "Do everything without complaining and arguing,"  But I just recently noticed the second part of that verse... " so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people." 

I want to be a shining light in the world.

I'm not great at it yet.  I spent the better part of yesterday in a state blah.  But I am trying.

It is cooler this week.
The a/c guy came out quickly.
Some one cares.
I need to pray about that one.
Car was fixed.
I'll drink tea.
It's ok I have other things to do.
It'll be ok.

I am blessed.