Marriage is tough. It takes effort. It's not always romance and flowers and mushy stuff. It's life and messes and arguments. It's disagreements and not seeing eye to eye and misunderstandings and annoyances. It's missed opportunities and different expectations.
But that does not mean we haven't had some fun along the way! It's also, coffee together in the morning, watching the rain on the balcony together, playing a new board game together, watching Jeopardy together. All these things have the same word in common--together.
Marriage is together. We are on the same team! We should be working together! I'm for Him and He is for Me!
So what's the big secret on how to be married for 29 years? << here's a few ideas but I really couldn't tell you. I have a lot of thoughts and ideas. But the main one is just don't quit! Work at it! In some aspects, I'm competitive and so is he and neither one of us want to lose. (***side note: Now it goes without saying that in the cases of abandonment or adultery or abuse--get the heck out! Seek help and counseling!)
A big part of our marriage is friendship. It's having fun together. I think that's what keeps us going a lot of times. Being silly, having fun, dancing like no one's watching!
Read good marriage books. Seek counseling even during the good times. Go on dates! Go on marriage retreats. Be around other married couples. Apologize. Don't always be right. Love with the other person's love language. Get off your phone sometimes. Do one nice thing. Stop the downward spiral. Enjoy yourself. Grow. Change. Help each other. Learn from others. Take advice. Don't get stuck in the monotony. Mix it up. Try.
It's like putting gas and oil in the car, if you want the car to keep running you gotta take care of it! Maintenance is pretty important to a relationship.
So have fun, hang on and enjoy this ride called life!
Here's to another 29 years Larry! We got this!! 💗
