Lifelong love

Happiness in marriage is overrated.

Everyone wants their "Happily Ever After", butterflies and fireworks.

That's all great and good.  But it's not sustaining.  Marriage is a lot of work.  It's mucky, and yucky, and difficult at times.  It's a lot of giving of our selves when we just want to sit on the couch and do nothing.

It's trying extra hard to communicate when we really just want to walk out of the room.

It's not getting our way.

It's putting our heart out there to possibly get stomped.

It's trying to figure out a compromise when you don't want to give up anything.

It's waking up every morning and having to do it all over again.

It's putting aside my own desires for someone else.

It's a lot of why did you do that/say that/ act that way?

But it's also....

Seeing the happiness on their face.

Learning about another's true self.

Connecting to another person on a level that you have with no one else.  

Knowing that they will be there because love is a commitment.

Waking up to know that the person beside me knows me fully and still loves me.


Marriage is not all about my happiness.  To quote a song it is "more than a feeling".  Love is a verb.  It is butterflies and fireworks...sometimes.  But it's much deeper than that.

My honey and I have been married almost 25 years.  We are different people than we were back then.  Our love once started out as a tiny little seed planted in the soil of this crazy thing called marriage.  But as we've fed and watered it, pruned and trimmed it, we've seen it blossom into an amazing love.

To quote one of our favorite movies: " Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam... and wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva.."

wuv you sweetie.. thanks for sticking with me