Kids now a days are being tested on every level. Are they smart enough for preschool? Have they sat up at 4 months? Do they read at grade level? Have they completed AB & C by the time they are 3 years old?
Oh they haven't?? Well, then I'm sorry but your child has failed. And in return you, the parent, are deemed a failure too.
When did it get this way?? Why so much pressure on our kids to be this or that? Why do all 4 year olds have to fit in exactly the same box?
Well--let me tell you--the one thing I learned through homeschooling my kids for 15 years is that
KIDS DO NOT ALL ACHIEVE THE SAME GOALS AT THE SAME TIME!
ALL KIDS ARE DIFFERENT!
KIDS LEARN DIFFERENTLY! KIDS HAVE DIFFERENT STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES!
Mommas know their kids. We are around them so much more than anyone else. The persons or institution administering the "test" only sees them for a few minutes. How can they define a person by just those few minutes?
Why do all 5 year olds need to read at a certain level? Do all 40 year olds read at the same level?
Kids will excel in some areas and not be that great in other areas. Aren't we all like that? Don't we all have our strengths and weaknesses? Can't we ALL grow in different areas?
Please, parents, I caution you against measuring yourself and your kids against all these parameters that SOMEONE HAS JUST MADE UP! Who decided what a 6 year old should be reading like? Who made up all these "standards"?
We know our kids! Let's not compare and pressure. Let's be good mommas and daddies. Let's love our kids regardless of how well they can jump through someone else's hoops. Let's love our kids for the joys that they are! Let's love our kids for who God has made them to be!
Be encouraged!! You are doing a great job parents!! You're kids are doing good too!
--rant over.......for now.
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